New Years Resolution
Do you take your new years resolution seriously or do you just go through the motions of setting them?
The end of the year is a good time to assess how your life is progressing. You reflect on what you have achieved throughout the year and work out what is worth keeping and what needs to be changed.
Many people choose to quit things such as:
- eating too much
- watching tv
- listening to negativity
- spending too much
- wasting time
Their intentions are good and they want a better quality of life by giving up the things they consider are not good for them.
However many people have formed habits over time and often these habits don’t serve them. These habits take time to break them. You see you have to replace them with new positive habits.
To do this takes at least 30 days of letting go of the old habit and practicing the new habit. It is this repetition and dedication that will begin to bring about positive change in your decision to keep a new years resolution.
I will tell you a story about how I have worked on removing negativity from my life. The first step in the process was to make a decision that listening to negativity was a waste of time.
The main source of negativity was and still is the media. So that meant not watching tv for 30 days or listening to talk back radio for the same period of time. That sounds difficult to do, however if you replace all of those wasted hours towards reading good uplifting books it is quite simple really.
What about keeping abreast of things in the world?
The really important things are talked about by your friends, that is if you have chosen the right friends. So this became another aspect to work on.
Who were my five closest friends? This is really important because your thoughts, your choices and even the amount of income you make average out to the same as your five closest friends. I thought this would be one of the hardest things to change. Yet it seemed to sort itself out.
What tends to happen as you embark on this quest is that to many people you change. They cant understand this change and drop away and out of your life. This does not mean you become lonely and isolated from the rest of the world. It just means that new people come into your life who have more in common with you now.
Self talk and positive affirmations
Everybody has a self talk. It is that quiet still voice that influences the things you do. Often it will be the voice that helps you get through situations. It is made up of all your experiences and environment. It is important to be aware of it and take control over it.
You see you can program your self talk to serve you better. It took me many hours every single day to begin to make in roads into programming a new self talk. At first it was a struggle and very difficult to do.
I had to be persistent. At times it felt like there was a war raging through my head. It felt like there were two voices arguing about what was right and what was wrong.
As I persisted it became easier to recite and act upon the new self talk I had programmed into my mind. I had formed a new habit through repetition and consistency.
How do you do this?
You begin repeating positive affirmations out loud and with heaps of feeling. Every time your mind wonders and you begin to think about things that don’t serve you, then I suggest you replace it with something positive.
If negative thoughts still continue to bug you then it’s time to practice some gratitude.
Start committing to writing down five new things that you are grateful for, continue doing this every single day at night before you go to sleep. This will help you start the day with a positive attitude and your new self talk will keep it that way.
This is one new years resolution I am glad I stuck at. The new habits I have formed since making that resolution have helped me to shape and change my life for the better.
Once you have made your news resolution be prepared for some hard work to put into practice what is required to bring about the change you are looking for. Once you begin doing this please remember that you have to form new habits and this takes time.