Talking to yourself
In everyday life so many of you talk to yourself more harshly than you ever would to another person.
You berate yourself for even the smallest things with words that are often cruel or vicious.
Let us look at the importance of talking to yourself with a positive inner voice, with rather more kindness and sensitivity. Affirmations come into their own as a way of incorporating your goals and aspirations into your everyday mindset.
Affirmations need to be reasonable and plausible.
They need to sit well and feel acceptable to you. In my opinion if most people said to themselves, ‘I am gorgeous and have a great body’ they would cringe as they said it and the words would fall flat.
I feel that affirmations should sit comfortably and stretch you a little bit, enabling you to feel confident about your goals. They should acknowledge and resonate with your desires, goals and aspirations.
So by talking to yourself like this:
- I am becoming happier about myself and my body
- I am working towards my goal weight
- I am on track and am feeling good,
You are doing so in a reasonable and constructive way. This enables you to focus your mind, reinforcing your positive inner voice and continuing with your plan.
These are ways of tuning in to how you are talking to yourself with your day-to-day inner chatter.
You have to get really clear about what you want.
It is crucial that you connect to your highest vision of yourself because you can’t create it unless you are clear about what it looks like.
If you don’t have a vision of where you want to go or what you want to be, you will most likely NOT get there.
To quote Henrietta Klauser, “If you have a connection to what you want, take the next step and write it down.”
If you don’t have any idea about what you want, or how you want to be in life to bring about greater happiness, begin looking through magazines and create a Vision Board/Collage of what attracts you.
You may also want to consider getting an outside perspective from a friend or a professional coach.
There are also books that can help guide you.
Just get help assessing your talents, divine gifts and abilities and then determine how you want to use them more fully in the world. You can’t help others as fully, if you are not aware of how you can serve best.
So instead of thinking of it as selfish to engage in knowing yourself better, I would suggest you consider it selfish to hold back and not be the best you can be. Only in this way, can you help the world and others.
Research shows that you have approximately 50,000 internal messages you say to yourself daily.
You are constantly walking around talking to yourself.
And it is what you say that makes all the difference in the overall quality of your life.
You have to create a plan and take specific actions to get you from where you are now to where you want to be. When most people write goals, they just write a list of action steps, usually external actions. I believe it is more powerful to have inner and outer goals.
An outer goal is what you want.
For instance, you might think, “I want a new house”.
An inner goal is more focused on the how.
How will a new home benefit me and my family?
Will it offer more common gathering areas, a larger kitchen so that we can cook together, etc.
How can I appreciate what I have now until I get this home?
How can I make this a joyful experience rather than a stressful one?
If you can not be grateful for what you have now, then when you get a new home, it will only create very short-term happiness for you. Then, you will be focused on the next external illusion of happiness.